10 steps to organising a funeral when your loved one has left no instructions...featured on The Celebrant Directory...written by Ellie Lomas
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Funeral Directors have been gradually calling on the services of Celebrants more and more for around 20 years. Perhaps friends or relatives have suggested having a Celebrant to take the funeral for you, but for many people, this will be the first time dealing with all the arrangements and it is very likely that you will never have heard of one.
Celebrants come generally in two forms; some are strictly ‘Humanist’, where there will no mention of any religion. Some are ‘Independent’ or ‘Civil’ Celebrants who give you the freedom to have hymns and other religious content if you wish to, or none at all. All Celebrants should do their utmost to create a ceremony that will be centred around your wishes and all about the life and personality of the person who has died.
Your child’s Naming Ceremony can be anything you want it to be. It can be held at home, in your garden, in a community centre, a hotel or anywhere else that grabs your imagination.
Naming Days are a great opportunity to get creative and make the special day truly unique, involving friends and family and making memories to be treasured forever. Once you have your venue secured and the date is fast approaching, what can you do to make the day as successful as possible?
If you are using a Celebrant to lead your Naming Ceremony then choosing the right one for you is so important. They will need to be the right fit for your family and they will be happy to have a chat with you over the phone or in person so you can get to know a little about them and make sure they are for you.
Once you are happy that you have made the right choice, your Celebrant will have lots of ideas to share, being led by your wishes throughout the process. Here are a few things that can be included to make your celebration extra special;
With an average of 1 in 6 people in the UK experiencing a mental health issue within the last week, more and more families are being affected by the death of someone they love who has battled with their mental health.
Through working with families at their time of grief, I have found that they often wish to acknowledge the more difficult parts of their loved one’s life during the funeral ceremony.
Of course, no two people are the same, and most ceremonies will still be filled with fond memories, family stories and musical tributes to the person who has died, reflecting their personality and celebrating their life.
Funerals can be a difficult subject. There is of course immense sadness, and often anger and frustration to deal with at such a difficult time. So where do you start?
Firstly, you should feel confident in your choice of Funeral Director, if you are using one. Your loved one may have taken out a pre payment plan in which case the choice will have been made, but if not you do not have to go with the first one you visit, none should make you feel pressured in any way.
It is worth remembering that many Funeral Directors are called to their line of work due to a personal experience or a real passion for caring for the deceased and their family. You should feel that you can trust them to make all of the arrangements and that they will treat you and your family with dignity and respect.